Books That Helped Me Move On After a Hard Breakup
Breakups can feel like the end of a chapter you weren’t ready to close, especially when the relationship was difficult. After one of my toughest breakups, I struggled to let go of the past and stop dwelling on what could have been. I felt stuck in a cycle of missing someone who wasn’t right for me, and I knew I needed help moving forward.
That’s when I turned to books that offered me fresh perspectives on love, healing, and self-worth. These reads gave me the tools to reflect, find closure, and rediscover my own happiness without relying on someone else. Here are the books that helped me let go and start a new, empowering chapter:
- “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller – This is for the anxious girlies. This book dives into attachment styles and helped me understand why I kept holding on. It’s a must-read for anyone trying to break free from unhealthy attachment patterns. This is definitely for the girl who felt like she couldn’t go a few hours without her boyfriend responding without getting a knot in her stomach. It also helped me make sure to choose a better partner in future for myself.
- “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle – This transformative read guided me to let go of the past and live fully in the present, which made moving on so much easier. It’s all about embracing the here and now.
- “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken” by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt – A candid, humorous take on why we need to let go. This book helped me see that the breakup was actually a blessing and something that could lead to better things.
- “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood – If you’ve ever found yourself over-invested in someone who wasn’t right for you, this book is eye-opening. It helped me understand the patterns I was repeating and how to prioritize my own well-being.
- “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero – A motivating read that reminded me of my own strength and independence. This book is all about building confidence and realizing your worth, which is essential after a breakup. I love re-reading this book after anytime I feel like I failed at something, it stops me in my tracks and helps me realign my goals and not think my life is over.
- “The Mountain Is You” by Brianna Wiest – Loved this one. This book dives deep into self-sabotage and the ways we can get in our own way. The Mountain Is You helped me confront my own patterns, not just in relationships but in life. Wiest’s insights inspired me to use my pain as a stepping stone, helping me understand that the real “mountain” to overcome is within ourselves. This book is a powerful reminder that our biggest challenges can become our greatest strengths. It motivated me enough to know that I needed to move on and change my life.